Work situations · Feedback & Growth
Feedback and 1-on-1s
Receiving critical feedback can make anyone defensive. In English, defensiveness sounds ten times worse. Learn the phrases that demonstrate senior maturity, active listening, and calm problem solving.
The Friction
Why feedback sessions feel vulnerable
When your manager points out a mistake, the instinctive reaction is to explain yourself. In English, that often sounds like making excuses. Non-native speakers need ready scripts to absorb the feedback, clarify expectations, and agree on next steps.
The Method
The SBI constructive response technique
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Acknowledge and thank without debating: "Thank you for sharing that observation."
- 02
Ask clarifying questions with curiosity: "Could you share a recent example so I can better understand where the gap occurred?"
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Propose concrete corrective action: "Moving forward, I will add an explicit validation step to prevent this."
Practice Pack
4 key moments inside this pack
- 01
Receiving constructive critique
Respond with maturity instead of excuses.
- 02
Asking for actionable feedback
Ask precise questions that help you improve.
- 03
Giving peer feedback
Constructive SBI delivery that colleagues value.
- 04
Bi-weekly 1-on-1 check-ins
Discuss priorities, blockers, and goals clearly.
Resources
Articles and terms for this situation
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Practise Feedback and 1-on-1s
Learn the technique, practise the phrases, and get an AI coach review of your own spoken response.